It’s Not Okay: Turning Heartbreak into Happily Never After

Hi everyone! Today Andi Dorfman’s second book came out, and to mark this day I wanted to do a review of her first book. The first book came out in 2016; however I read it this past year. I immediately loved it and could not put it down! For those of you who do not know, Andi Dorman was in season 10 of The Bachelorette. At the end of the show Andi did get engaged, but in the end it did not work out and her engagement ended. Throughout the book Andi talks about her time on The Bachelorette, her engagement, and how she got through everything after her engagement ended. There were so many great parts in this book, but I am only going to focus on a few points!

The first thing I want to mention is the very first page.  It says, “To all the brokenhearteds of the world…One day all the pain will make sense.” While I loved this whole part the part where she writes “…One day all the pain will make sense.” I believe this 100 percent, and it was definitely the case for me when my engagement ended! After my engagement ended I noticed I became more outgoing and willing to take more risks. I also met a really great guy this past year too, and I know if I had been with my ex still that would not have happened.  I would have missed out on a lot of great moments.

The next part I want to talk about is a few pages later when Andi is talking about how this break up will define her for the rest of her life and how the label of being an ex-fiancee is the worst. As I read these few pages I was sobbing! This really hit home with me. I know for me personally knowing that I will always have an ex-fiancee and I can never get that first proposal back.  While I do not regret getting engaged to my ex and having that relationship with him, I do regret not being able to say I was only engaged once. I will never get to spend the rest of my life with the person I thought that I would love and would love me forever, and that is a terrible feeling to have.

The last part I am going to mention is toward the end, and Andi asks, “Why do men always seem to move on faster than woman?”  I have asked this so many times! I will not say how quickly my ex moved on after things ended, but for me it took me two years to finally start to date again! In that time I have only dated one other person while my ex has dated more than one. It does hurt to think that I may have meant so little to him that he was able to date again quickly. One thing I did learn from that moment though was that the time did help me to heal better and I was more open to dating.  I do believe that the guy I dated really helped too. If he were not to have been so wonderful to me I most likely would still be not willing to date.

It’s Not Okay was exactly what I needed to read and I really do recommend it to everyone! I will say that I do not regret getting engaged, but I do regret how I handled it after and do wish I would have moved on with my normal life a little bit quicker. Have any of you read Andi’s book? Let me know in the comments below what you thought!

-A

Update On Other Posts

Hey everybody! Today for Silly Saturday I thought I would do a quick update on things I mentioned in other posts. I said I would get back to you all about the Ben and Ashely I podcast and about Thanksgiving Day treat ideas!

On Tuesday I shared a couple treat ideas for Thanksgiving, and told you I would make them and post them on Instagram. Long story short I did not make the treats I mentioned. While I stand by my statement of them being super easy to make and it honestly would not have taken that long to do I decided not to make them. I would however love to know if any of you made them or about what treats you made for Thanksgiving!

For Friday Favorites I posted about my favorite podcasts and told you that I had just began listening to Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast. I finished the episode I was listening to today plus two more after that! When I opened the app today I saw that I had only had six minutes left in last night’s episode. I can honestly say I love this podcast. It was so easy to get into! I found myself driving around just so I could finish each episode. It is definitely worth listening to!

Today’s post was short, but I did want to do an update on everything! Have you guys listened to any of the podcasts I mentioned? Have you made any of the Thanksgiving treats? Let me know in the comments below!

-A

Favorite Podcasts

Hi everyone! I am going to be sharing a few of my favorite podcasts with you. I just recently got into listening to podcasts and I am obsessed! I use the podcast app on my iPhone. I am subscribed to quite a few podcasts, but I do listen to the same few every week, so I do not miss out on an episode.

The podcast that kicked off this obsession is The Jep and Jess Show. The hosts Jep and Jess are from A&E’s Duck Dynasty and their spin off show, Jep and Jess: Growing the Dynasty. Every Wednesday Jep and Jess have a different guest on their show. They talk about their family and what is going on in their life now that their shows are over. The podcast is so much fun to listen to! Each week they do a little game they call Silly or Annoying where they go around and talk about what the other person does that they think is either silly or annoying. I love listening to this podcast each week, especially when I am hiking or running. It helps keep me distracted so I am not thinking about what I am doing! I highly recommend this podcast!

The second podcast I want to talk about is Scrubbing in with Becca Tilley. Becca Tilley was one of the contestants on Chris Soules season and again on Ben Higgins season. With that being said I did not know this before listening to her podcast. I actually went back and watched Chris Soules season after listening to the first episode. The initial reason I started listening was because I saw that Grey’s Anatomy would be a part of it. However, as I continued to listen to each episode I began to realize that I could really relate to Becca. She is basically my spirit animal! So if you love me you will definitely love her and should go listen to her podcast! There is a new episode every Monday and you will not want to miss a single one. Every week Becca does a segment called, ask a guy where she will call a guy that she knows and ask them a question that girls are dying to know the answers to. I cannot get enough of this podcast and I hope you will like it as much as I do!

The next podcast I listen to weekly is Anna Faris is Unqualified. I know I have said this about the other two podcasts, but I am in love with this podcast too! Anna and her co-host Sim are hilarious! They play off of what the other says and it creates this magnificent show. There have been many times that I realized I probably looked insane to other drivers, because I was laughing so hard. This podcast does tend to be explicit at times, but that does not make it less amazing. My favorite thing to do is to listen to older episodes while I am driving to work or school. During the podcast Anna and Sim interview a special guest and it always is so wonderful! The next part of the podcast is where Anna and Sim will give a caller advice on whatever is going on that this person needs help with. I cannot say enough good things about this podcast! It is so great and you will be laughing throughout the whole thing!

The last podcast I am going to talk about is Off the Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe. Kaitlyn Bristowe also was on the Bachelor during Chris Soules season, and returned to be the Bachelorette where she met her fiancé Shawn Booth. I just recently got into this podcast a couple months ago, and quickly became a fan. I was listening to it on the way to and from an appointment at ASU for my upcoming semester and was instantly pulled in. Not only do I enjoy listening to this podcast while driving I also listen to it while I am walking with baby P after dropping her sister off at school. On Off the Vine you will hear an interview with a special guest. During the interview she will play a game or two with them that she has created. It makes the interview more fun and I really enjoy hearing more about each guest through these games. Some of the guests she has had on are; Shawn Booth (her fiancé), Andi Dorfman, Spencer Pratt and Heidi Montag, and Monica Ten-Kate. This podcast is so wonderful and you will not want to miss it! You may even become obsessed like me! I strongly encourage you to listen to this podcast when you have time.

If you could not tell from above I really do enjoy podcasts from people in the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise. I just listened to some of Ben and Ashely I Almost Famous tonight. I have yet to finish the episode, but I already love it! I will definitely let you all know what I think once I finish it, most likely tomorrow. This podcast is hosted by Ashley Iaconetti and Ben Higgins. They make this podcast a joy to listen to and I really look forward to listening to more episodes!

There are so many other podcasts that I love, these were just a few. I do use the app, Podcasts, on the iPhone to listen to all the podcasts I mentioned above. However, I will leave the links to each site below if you do not use and iPhone or any Apple products. What podcasts do you listen to? Leave a comment below telling me!

-A

Podcasts mentioned:

The Jep & Jess Show- https://www.podcastone.com/the-jep-and-jess-show

Scrubbing in with Becca Tilley: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/139-Scrubbing-in-with-Becca-Ti-28440719/

Anna Faris is Unqualified: https://soundcloud.com/annfarisisunqualified

Off the Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe: https://www.podcastone.com/off-the-vine-with-kaitlyn-bristowe

The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/139-The-Ben-and-Ashley-28165481/